Friday, February 27, 2009


I got to go visit the puppies again this afternoon. They are now 2 days shy of a month old and are growing leeps and bounds. They have a bunch of curly soft hair and their momma is as sweet as ever. I'm still not sure which one is mine. Enjoy the pics!

TESSIE! How did YOU get in here. heehee

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

California February 14-17, 2009

Since I get the puppy in only about a month I decided I needed to get some of my travel bugs out of the way – California in February, Colorado in March and Minnesota in April. I’m excited to see all of my friends who I miss so much.

It was so great to see Dan as an added bonus to my California trip this year. He was kind enough to pick me up at the airport so Sarah didn’t have to cut her date short so we had some time to visit just the two of us and of course the drunk birthday girl Ashley. What would a dive bar with karaoke be without her? I told Dan he should take her home but he only had eyes for me. hahaha Other than the guy on the plane who insisted on taking advantage of Southwest airlines free Vodka drinks on Valentine's Day Daniel I didn't think at all about it being a day I frankly don't enjoy. It was a nice change from years passed.

And yes - the cheesy pose is on purpose. Nothing like making fun of things when you can.

Oh AND I’m so happy to announce that a Coke commercial Dan worked on called “Meanwhile” just won the right to be played in various theatres across the country during “the 20” I believe. Make sure to notice the popcorn. That’s Dan’s beautiful creation.

On Sunday Sarah and I went up to Santa Barbra and did some wine tasting. As I have ashamedly mentioned on here before I have been a fan of The Bachelor for some time (although given what I’m hearing about this season it might be my last) and that includes if not totally started with Andrew Firestone. I’ve also always liked their wines. Their winery and brewery are in the valley north of Santa Barbra although it turns out the family fairly recently sold the winery. It was gorgeous up there. We tasted wines at Curtis Winery, Firestone and Fess Parker. Fess Parker, for those of you in my generation, was the guy who played Davey Crocket in the TV series. I guess he owns a lodge near his winery and you can often see him there. We went on a tour at Firestone which is where many of these pictures were taken. It was a beautiful day and such a great time to catch up with Sarah.

Later that day Sarah took me down to Huntington Beach and I spent the remainder of the weekend with Erin. Oh and Daniel too. Erin had a birthday on Monday so she picked the agenda and we just spent the day laughing, watching movies, shopping – oh and of course eating a whole pan of lemon bars. It was her birthday! What do you expect?

That evening a group of Erin and Daniel’s friends met at Duke’s. Erin didn’t know to expect as many people as showed up and it was fun to watch her confusion as she tried to figure out if she was supposed to know certain people were coming. I hadn’t seen the gang since the wedding so it was nice to see the old faces and some new ones as well. I was very glad I got to be there to celebrate Erin’s birthday with her.

On Tuesday I had to go home, sadly, but first Erin and I went on a hike. It was gorgeous and I loved being able to see the ocean with the sun shining on it. It definitely gave me the bug to get out again. I’m ready to shake off winter and head into spring – my favorite time of year.

AND just so you know – I found out I for sure get a puppy. I don’t know if it is a boy or a girl yet but I will keep you posted. I get to check in on them on Friday so I’ll take my camera and get some pictures to post.

Friday, February 06, 2009

He's Just Not That Into You

This movie opens today and I had no plans or desire to see it. I read the book and frankly found it quite depressing and made me lose faith in the dating process in general. However, I just found this on which I usually only read for the bachelor recaps and I might go see if now. If the movie is as funny as this "advertisement" it would be worth it.

Wednesday, February 04, 2009

Blessed Be the Peace Keepers (I hope)

I am constantly in the midst of figuring myself out. I don’t know if that ever stops in life but right now, early on in my 30s, it is a serious quest. I had a realization about myself about two weeks ago: I’m a peace keeper. Who would have thought? My profession causes me to fight a lot of battles daily but really, I work extremely hard to make things amicable. I settle cases. I am admittedly and proudly not a “bull dog”. The fact that I am proud to admit this to potential clients probably causes me to lose a few here and there but you know, you can’t be what you aren’t. It’s better for them to have no misconceptions at the get go.

I’ve realized that there are times when I take it in the teeth so to speak to keep things from going from bad to worse or fine to bad. I’m not sure what it is that makes me decide to handle things in that way but it always ends with me having a knot in my stomach. Recently, I had to do this twice over the same situation. It was a situation where rather than inflame the situation I stood quiet and just felt bad but did what I thought would allow the other person to feel better. Then about a week after that occurred I spent some time with a friend who I often have to bite my tongue around so as not to show that my feelings were hurt and to allow them to feel better about themselves.

It’s sort of hard.

I don’t know what it is that makes me feel that it is an acceptable way to be in relationship with people. I would hope that if I hurt your feelings at some point you would tell me without hesitation so I can apologize and fix the behavior. I don’t know why I don’t allow myself to realize other people might feel the same way.

And actually, in hindsight this behavior started back in high school. For example, I can’t tell you how many times I had a “crush” on a boy and I would tell one friend or another about it and the next thing I knew they were “dating” him. It was like by giving him my stamp of approval it was time for that friend to swoop in and do something about. Sure it was my fault for being shy or wanting the boy to want me and pursue me (that shortcoming – if it is one - continues to this day) but I always swallowed my feelings and justified it to myself that at least two out of three people were happy in the situation. If I did anything about it then three out of three people would be sad. Actually, come to think of it – it happened in college too. Ick.

So I’m turning over a new leaf. I’m not going to allow myself to feel bad at the benefit of other people anymore. I’m still going to be tactful and careful and kind but I’m going to start telling people when they hurt my feelings and when I feel their behavior is hurtful. Hopefully, it will lead to accountability for me as well as my friends return the favor.

But now I have a favor to ask of you, my friends. If you become one of those friends who are told that my feelings were hurt by your behavior please take it as nothing but an attempt to make myself better as a person and our relationship stronger by not allowing my feelings to be hurt to no one’s benefit. You have to know that I feel our friendship is strong enough for me to tell you in the first place and my actions are not with the intent to hurt you but rather filled with the I hope we will become better friends because of it. Maybe in reality keeping the peace doesn’t do anyone any favors after all.