Monday, July 02, 2007

Bachelorette parties in your (almost) 30s

My dear friend Jill is getting married in less than two weeks, actually 12 days from now! Yippeee!!! I went to her bachelorette party last weekend. I had to miss dinner which evidently included an awesome transvestite (I always miss the good stuff) but joined them after at Tia Lou’s a dance club in Belltown in Seattle. It was a lot of fun. I love to dance even though I am terrible at it. It struck me though how different this bachelorette party was compared to a majority of the ones I went to even as recent as three years ago. There were some drinks and lots of laughs but none of the debauchery that used to ensue. The great thing though is that is was still a lot of fun.

I was thinking about it as I drove home that night/morning. I think the reality is that we are all so comfortable in ourselves now at our old ages (haha) that we don’t have the same feeling of insecurity about going into an exclusive relationship, in fact, I believe many of us would say having that stability and groundedness is welcome. We need someone or something to reign us in a little bit. So instead of thinking “QUICK – get it out, be crazy because the old ball and chain (yes – women think this too) is going to pull us down!” it has become a celebration of the fact that we have women friends in our lives who are still fun to go out and dance the night away with and they will continue to be there even when we have an old man at home to keep us company. It is sort of a relief actually. It’s better to know there is peace in relationships rather than confinement.

Congrats Jill and Lennie! I wish I could be there to celebrate with you the night of your wedding but know you will be in my prayers that day and I look forward to celebrating with you for the rest of your lives together! Love you both!

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