Wednesday, December 27, 2006

Christmas as a parent

No, no I am not a parent – don’t worry. I am not writing this to tell you all that I am suddenly expecting. Don’t pass out. What I am writing about is the amazing ability of some people to be great parents. I have been blessed with two of them – yup, a great mom AND a great dad. I am not sure what I ever did to be deserving of that but I lucked out I guess. I got blessed. Nothing showed me that more than something my dad did this Christmas. He received an Ipod for Christmas and decided to give it to me. It was something I have really been wanting since my MP3 player went missing on a plane ride from LA this September and I had asked for it for Christmas but didn’t get one. Instead, my dad got one, which I think he would have really enjoyed but instead he wanted to give it to me. I am thrilled to have one as I have been coveting them since they became practical to buy. He said he didn’t think he would use it but I don’t know that I am buying that. It got me thinking about how many parents I see in this world, either through work or coaching or in my friendships that are extremely selfish. Erin and I talk about it a lot – about how it is crazy to think of people having kids and having any thoughts of putting themselves before their kids. It just shouldn’t happen. I have one “friend” in particular that I think of when I think of selfish parents. She was complaining to me the other day about the time commitment she was making with her oldest daughter and this class she was going to be taking. I can’t imagine either of my parents complaining for a minute about taking me to a sporting event, or 4-H or having to give up their Ipod. It just wouldn’t happen. (And they for sure would not go to Hawaii for Thanksgiving with their boyfriend/girlfriend and leave me home to fend for myself at age 12.) That’s why my parents are so great. That is why I am most thankful this year for my wonderful family. I don’t know why the big man decided to bless me with the parents he did but I say – hey thanks God! I have never felt as lucky in my whole life as I did this Christmas. And thanks Mom and Dad for the Ipod!

Tuesday, December 19, 2006


I love jokes. If you haven’t heard the one about the big orange head you are missing out. Here is one I heard on the radio the other day that I liked a lot – mostly because I wasn’t 100% sure I understood it so I had to think about it for a while.

A Jewish man comes to talk to a Rabbi with a problem. He says to the Rabbi, “I don’t know what to do. I have raised my son to be a faithful Jew. I gave him an excellent Jewish education, threw him a wonderful bar mitzvah party and everything was going well. The other day however he came to me and told me he wanted to become a Christian! I decided I had to come to you with this problem. What should I do?”

Well, the Rabbi responded by saying, “It is funny you should come to me. I too have raised my son to be a faithful Jew. I gave him an excellent Jewish, education and I also threw him a wonderful bar mitzvah party. He too recently came to me and told me he wants to become a Christian.”

The Jewish man said, “ Well Rabbi, what did you do?” The Rabbi said “I went directly to God and asked him the same question you are asking me now.” The Jewish man said to the Rabbi, “Well, what did he say?”

The Rabbi responded, “He said – it is funny you should come to me……”

Random Acts of Kindness

I went through the Starbucks drive through on Tuesday in Everett after finishing up at court where I finalized a divorce for a client. As is often the case I was chatting with Erin on the phone and was in a pretty good mood. I like starting the day out in court even if it is for a divorce. There are a number of reasons really. I get to sleep in a little bit and just going to court in general is a highlight for me no matter what really. So, I decided an eggnog latte fit my mood and the holiday spirit that I was finding myself in as I was chatting with Erin so I decided to stop. Well, what do you know – the person in the car in front of me must have been in the same spirit because when I rolled up to the window the drive through attendant told me my drink had been paid for! I couldn’t believe it! I asked her why and she said the lady in the car in front of me had paid for it as a random act of kindness. I don’t think anything like that had ever happened to me before. It made me want to return the favor. I know it became a bit of a cliché not too long ago with that Kevin Spacey movie but there is something to the idea of “paying it forward”. Her small $3.00 act actually made my whole day! I think I treated other people more kindly and I know I probably laughed a little louder and harder than I normally would have that day. It is amazing what great things such a small act can do for another person. I can’t wait until the next time I go through a drive through.